Why Set Your Heart on a Cancer Man?
The ultimate ‘low-maintenance’ man. He loves to clean, cook and look after you.
Winning a Cancer Man.
The first thing you need to know about securing the affections of a Cancer man is this: you’ll probably have to do all of the legwork. The Cancer man is highly unlikely to make the first move, as he suffers from a deep-rooted fear of rejection. So, you’ll probably need to work on those pick-up lines and seduction techniques!
At work, the Cancer man is easy to spot: he’ll be the one sat at his fastidiously organized workstation, labouring hard, shouldering responsibility and generally getting on with things. Because the Cancer man likes to get the job done and do it to the very best of his abilities, you are likely to find him working late. Even when everyone else has flaked out and gone home, the Cancer man will still be there eagerly working away, proving himself to his employers. This can provide you with a great opportunity to make your move.
There’s no point letting him know how you feel or subtly suggesting that you find him attractive: his fear of rejection will prevent him from seeing these as compliments; instead, he will perceive them as potential pitfalls, as opportunities to be rejected and humiliated. No, if you want a Cancer man, chances are you’re going to have to just come out and say it. You may even need to write it down and draw diagrams!
All that being said, it isn’t difficult to ingratiate yourself with the Cancer man. All Cancer men, whether they are mild examples or extreme cases of the type, love their family and, in particular, their mother. If you demonstrate that you have a strong bond with your own mother, this will go down very well. If you’ve recently treated your mother to a day out, taken her shopping or to a show, make sure you drop this into the conversation at the first opportunity. The Cancer man can only love someone who adores their own mother.
Extra points can also be scored if you ask about his mother. There may even be a photograph of her on his desk; if so, make sure you point out the resemblance between him and his mother – he’ll love you for this. If you can squeeze it in without sounding too corny, mention how young his mother looks… “I thought that was a picture of your sister!”
The Cancer man is very tactile and he loves to be touched. If you’re trying to get his attention, touch him gently on the arm, shoulder or, best of all, the back of the hand. This is likely to make him immediately well-disposed toward you. Make sure your hands are warm first!
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Another great ‘in’, believe it or not, is housework! The Cancer man is extremely well-domesticated and house-proud. If you just happen to mention that you spent Sunday cleaning your home from top to bottom, tending the garden or cooking a meal (“just like Mother makes”), you’ll see his eyes light up with glee. In fact, the chances are, he spent Sunday doing something remarkably similar! For the Cancer man, housework isn’t a chore, it’s a leisure activity.
The Ideal Date for the Cancer Man
From the Cancer man’s point of view, the perfect date is one where he gets to cook for you. He loves nothing more than to magic-up something in the kitchen and have you drool with appreciation. Make sure you let him know in advance the kinds of foods you won’t or can’t eat, because he will be devastated if you are anything less than blown away by his culinary efforts.
If you’re looking to eat out, be sure to go somewhere the food has that ‘home-cooked’ appeal, somewhere he feels he can deconstruct the meal into a recipe which he can recreate at a later date. He’ll thank you for adding to his gastronomic knowledge.
If you’re not at the date stage yet, but want to invite the Cancer man along to something he might enjoy, allowing you to move things rapidly into the date stage, try an outdoor activity. The Cancer man likes fresh air and exercise (but nothing too arduous). A hike through the woods or a spot of sailing will leave him feeling happy and invigorated. So much so, he might even ask you out!
What to Wear for the Cancer Man
Indigos and oranges are the colors of choice of the Cancer man, colors that look good enough to eat. Likewise with perfumes, go for something fresh and ‘edible’. In terms of clothing styles, the Cancer man himself opts for conservative cuts, nothing too eye-catching, so it’s probably best to follow his lead in this respect.
What you wear is not quite as significant as where you got it from. The Cancer man loves to shop. In fact, clothes shopping can be a very effective bonding exercise!
Gifts for the Cancer Man
Anything to do with cooking is going to score you points. Anything that he might share with his mother is going to score you double points! And, because the Cancer man loves to shop, gift vouchers for his favorite store won’t be seen as a thoughtless, last-minute gift, but as a genuine boon.
Sex and the Cancer Man
In many respects, the Cancer man is the precise opposite of the Gemini man when it comes to matters of the flesh. The Cancer man isn’t keen on experimentation. He likes his sex simple and wholesome. To the Cancer man, sex is an expression of love and not simply a carnal act in its own right. He likes to feel safe and secure when it comes to sex and so prefers the comfort and familiarity of his own bed.
Keeping Your Cancer Man
The Cancer man is very loyal and hardly places any demands at all on his partner. All you have to do is show him affection, appreciate the things he does for you and demonstrate love and loyalty to your own family. The only major sticking point is likely to be his mother. If you get on well with his mother, there will be no problems at all; in fact, this will cement your relationship to the point where it is practically unbreakable. However, if you and his mother don’t see eye-to-eye, then there are going to be problems. Hopefully, these issues can be overcome by agreeing to disagree with his mother and keeping things affable. If not, your relationship with the Cancer man is likely to be a very difficult one.
What are You Letting Yourself in For?
Well, you’re going to have to share him with his mother… but I suspect you’ve already guessed that by now! The size and nature of this particular stumbling block is, of course, entirely dependent upon his mother. In fact, it might not be a problem at all. His mother’s astrological sign is likely to play a significant role, but that’s another book entirely!
Other than the potentially thorny issue of mater, the only thing you need to be wary of is criticism. The Cancer man does not respond at all well to criticism, no matter how well intentioned it may be. Plus, he knows how to hold a grudge if he feels he has been in any way slighted. Don’t be too surprised if something mildly critical you may have said in passing is suddenly thrown in your face months or even years later!
You may find the Cancer Man more difficult if you’re a…
…Libra, Capricorn or Aries, and particularly challenging, if you’re a Sagittarius or Aquarius. But don’t worry: true love conquers all!
The Big Do:
Let him know how much you love your mother.
The Big Don’t:
Don’t let him know how much your mother drives you insane.