How to Attract a Sagittarius Man
Why Set Your Heart on a Sagittarius Man?
If you’re looking for a little excitement (or a lot of excitement), look no further than the Sagittarius man. Typically, they are thrill seekers, with an I’ll-try-anything-once lust for life.
(Not sure if he is a Sagittarius man? Why not check out our Zodiac Male Spotter’s Guide?)
Winning a Sagittarius Man.
The Sagittarius man is, of all the signs of the zodiac, possibly one of the easiest to ‘acquire’. They have an I’ll-try-anything-once approach to life and, when asked out on a date, will most likely say ‘yes’, just to see where it all might lead. A Sagittarius man always regrets turning down any form of invitation or opportunity, plagued by an acute sense of what-might-have-been. In a nutshell, if you’ve set your sights on a Sagittarius man, ask him out; he’ll probably say yes even if he doesn’t know the first thing about you! But be quick, because as soon as somebody else asks him out, he’ll shed his singleton status and leap off the shelf in a flash.
If you want to be absolutely certain of a ‘yes’ when you make your move, you’ll probably want to take account of the following.
At work, the Sagittarius man will generally be getting on with things. However, he isn’t particularly career-minded, and so will be quite easy to engage in conversation. Plus, the Sagittarius man is rarely in awe of authority figures, so he is unlikely to be fearful of reprisals from his supervisor. He is always keen to lift a co-worker’s spirits, so it certainly wouldn’t hurt to look a little glum and in need of some cheering-up.
A perfect talking point for the Sagittarius man is travel. An untraveled Sagittarius man is a very rare thing indeed. Their love of adventure will have left its mark all over their passport. They are likely to have travelled to some interesting places, possibly some dangerous places, as the Sagittarius man is not averse to risk. In fact, many Sagittarius men are adventurers and thrill seekers. If you have your own little tale of daring-do or of voyages to exotic locales, don’t keep it to yourself: he’ll love to hear all about it.
If your research tells you the Sagittarius man you’ve set your sights upon is neither well-travelled nor particularly adventurous, the chances are he will be something of a ‘mental traveller’. He will be interested in radical philosophies and broadening his inner horizons. Show him you have hidden depths and a head full of intriguing ideas, and he’ll be hooked.
If your Sagittarius man doesn’t work with you, or you both work in the kind of place where glancing up from your desk every now and then is considered a disciplinary offence, there is another way to get to grips with your intended. Parties. The Sagittarius man loves parties. He will rarely, if ever, turn down an invitation to a party. If you hear of party and you know he’s invited, get yourself on the guest list because he will be there. Then, practice your best flirty looks and subtle innuendo, because the Sagittarius man loves to flirt.
A word of warning, before we move on. When expressing an interest in the Sagittarius man, it is fatal to suggest you’re looking for anything other than a “let’s see where this goes” kind of relationship, as he hates to be tied down. This doesn’t mean he’s incapable of monogamy, just that he needs to feel as if he is in control of his own destiny. A married Sagittarius man is a loyal partner, just so long as he doesn’t feel he has been in anyway manipulated or railroaded into making a commitment.
The Ideal Date for the Sagittarius Man
A party makes a great neutral ‘dating ground’ for the Sagittarius man. If you ask him to accompany you to a party to which he would not otherwise have been invited, he will be especially grateful. Another good venue for a date would be anything which involves a degree of risk, such as a casino.
Most Sagittarians are lovers of good food and drink, so the traditional dinner date is perfectly acceptable, particularly if you are introducing the Sagittarius man to a new kind of cuisine. “There’s this amazing Aztec restaurant…” is the kind of invitation the Sagittarius man is powerless to refuse. If the food is potentially lethal, all the better, as far as the risk-taking Sagittarius man is concerned.
What to Wear for the Sagittarius Man
The Sagittarius man is fond of rich blues and purples. When it comes to clothing, he prefers to wear garments that are loose and comfortable; if you were to wear something similar, it might imply that you, too, are a free spirit.
The Sagittarius values honesty, so he gravitates toward natural-looking partners. In other words, wear just enough make-up to draw out your best features.
He also likes perfumes. Try something exotic, but just enough for him to get the occasional hint when you lean in to speak to him.
Gifts for the Sagittarius Man
The Sagittarius man, be he physically or mentally adventurous, is always keen to explore new belief systems, philosophies and religions. The latest ‘new age’ development will be of interest to him, so long as it isn’t wishy-washy and fantastical; rather it should be (at least reasonably) scientifically robust, well-researched and intellectually sound. So: Neuro Linguistic Programming, yes; candle magic, probably not.
Another great gift for the Sagittarius man is some kind of unusual food stuff or beverage. Try and gather some intelligence first to ascertain what he hasn’t tried, although it may be difficult to find anything! His eyes will light up when you present him with a bottle of mead, saki or a packet of honey-roasted locusts. Even if the food in question is (to Western tastes) fundamentally disgusting, he will actually enjoy discovering for himself just how fundamentally disgusting your gift actually is.
Sex and the Sagittarius Man
As with all things with the Sagittarius man, sex is all part of life’s great adventure. He will like sex which is exiting, varied and possibly even a little dangerous. For the Sagittarius man, it’s not unlike buying a house: location, location, location!
If you yourself are a little demur or restrained in these matters, the Sagittarius man can seem a little daunting. However, if you allow yourself to be swept along, you’re guaranteed a sex life which will have your friends gasping in disbelief and, quite possibly, turning a lighter shade of green with envy.
However, for the Sagittarius man, sex is very much a part of a greater whole. He will value a partner as much for their mind and the intellectual stimulation they provide as for the physical delights they deliver. That being said, we are talking about a man, here, so the ‘physical delights’ doubtless occupy a slightly higher position in his list of priorities.
Keeping Your Sagittarius Man
This one really depends on you. The Sagittarius man hates to feel restrained in any way. He values his freedom above all things. If you’re not the possessive type and you value your own space, you’ll have no problem keeping hold of the Sagittarius man. If you’re riddled with insecurities and have a possessive nature, the Sagittarius man is going to run a mile.
The important thing here is honesty. Just ask him what his expectations are, and explain yours. If he feels he has reached a mutually-acceptable agreement with you, he will be more than happy to accept it. If, however, he feels as if you have ‘secret rules’ which only come to light once he transgresses them, he will feel trapped and unhappy.
As I said earlier, the Sagittarius man is more than happy to live a monogamous lifestyle, just so long as he feels he hasn’t been tricked or pressured into it.
If you’re the type of person who likes a bit of ‘me time’ and likes to feel as if they can do pretty much whatever they want whenever they want (even if you don’t actually choose to exercise that right), the Sagittarius man is perfect for you.
What are You Letting Yourself in For?
See Keeping Your Sagittarius Man. Really, that tells you all you need to know. The Sagittarius man is always reluctant to make an official commitment; he may, however, be fully committed to you in his heart – only you can know this for certain.
There are two other negative traits which could place a strain upon your relationship. The Sagittarius man’s love of adventure can lead to recklessness. This recklessness can take the form of a borderline addiction to dangerous sports and activities, or it can lead to problem gambling.
The second potential issue is that of irresponsibility. To the Sagittarius man, responsibility can be viewed as nothing more than another form of ‘enforced commitment’. At the extreme end of the spectrum, the Sagittarius man rejects all forms of ‘you must’: ‘you must pay your bills’, ‘you must have a job’, ‘you must live within your means’, ‘you must do what’s expected of you’, these are all anathema to the extreme Sagittarius man.
Of course, the extreme cases of all zodiac types are, by and large, to be avoided.
You may find the Sagittarius Man more difficult if you’re a…
…Pisces, Gemini or Virgo, and particularly challenging, if you’re a Taurus or Cancer. But don’t worry: true love conquers all!
The Big Do:
Take things one step at a time.
The Big Don’t:
Never deny him his freedom.
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