How to Attract a Virgo Man
Why Set Your Heart on a Virgo Man?
Culture and sophistication often go hand-in-hand with snobbishness and even cruelty. Not with the Virgo man, however: his sense of refinement is tempered by a kind and decent nature.
(Not sure if he is a Virgo man? Why not check out our Zodiac Male Spotter’s Guide?)
Winning a Virgo Man.
The Virgo man is something of a perfectionist, particularly when it comes to matters of the heart. Indeed, he may have waited literally years for the right person to come along. This puts you in rather a difficult position, because you either are that person or you aren’t. He will probably have a mental photograph of this individual, not to mention a detailed psychological profile.
So, who is this amazing individual?
Well, the chances are slim to non-existent of this individual existing at all!
Your challenge in trying to win the Virgo man is in making him forget this fantastic (not to mention fantastical) individual and take a chance on you instead.
First things first: your appearance. The Virgo man is extremely fastidious about his own appearance and applies his own often pathologically high standards to others. Nothing turns a Virgo man off quicker than poor grooming or, even worse, poor hygiene. To even attract the initial glance of a Virgo man, you’ll need to be clean, pristine and not a hair out of place. No biggie, right? If you’re a groomer by nature, no problem, otherwise, you might have to book an appointment at the salon as a first port of call. Look on the bright side, though, it gives you the perfect opportunity to indulge in a little quality ‘me time’!
The Virgo man is a helper by nature, so in the workplace, you’re likely to find him in a supporting role of some kind, assisting somebody else in getting things done. A great way to get talking to a Virgo man is to ask for his assistance: he likes nothing more. However, he finds helplessness or, more precisely, cluelessness very unappealing. If you go to him for help, it should be because he is the go-to guy for that particular problem and not because you’re all-at-sea and don’t know what else to do.
Once you’re talking to the Virgo man, try to drop into the conversation anything you might have done to help someone less fortunate than yourself, as the Virgo man is very charitable by nature. Ask him to sponsor you for some fund raising activity and not only will he gladly do so, he’ll probably ask how he can take part himself!
Virgos love their work and are fiercely loyal to their professions and their employers. The Virgo man is absolutely the wrong person to have “I hate my job” or “My boss is an imbecile” conversations with. If you’re not happy with your current employer, best to say nothing for the time being because the Virgo man won’t appreciate it at all.
Another no-no when talking to the Virgo man is crude language and profanity. His notion of cleanliness extends to the vocabulary, too, so you may need to check your potty mouth in at the door!
Talking shop with the Virgo man is never a bad idea, as they tend to find it hard to switch from work mode to leisure mode. In fact, they find talking about work at the end of a hard day extremely relaxing.
So, in a nutshell, talk charity, work, work, charity, work and more work, and you’ll be very much on the Virgo man’s wavelength.
However, the Virgo man isn’t particularly good at showing his emotions, so you may find it a little difficult to know if you’ve made an impact or not. If in doubt, ask him out. Just remember to keep it simple and unsentimental. He doesn’t need to know what you think of him or how amazing his eyes are: a simple, “Are doing anything Friday night?” will be fine. Or, even better, “I’m going to this charity function on Friday night, do you fancy tagging along?”
The Ideal Date for the Virgo Man
I wasn’t kidding about the charity function, by the way. For the Virgo man an evening of helping people less fortunate really is the perfect date!
However, if you’re looking to do something a bit more romantic than helping out in a soup kitchen for a couple of hours, the Virgo man is quite cultured and will find an evening at the theatre extremely satisfying
The most important thing to remember when dating a Virgo man is never, never, be late. Not even a teensy bit fashionably late. For the Virgo man, punctuality is a virtue and lateness an inexcusable vice.
What to Wear for the Virgo Man
The Virgo man can be a little prudish and likes sensible clothing in subtle shades, nothing bright and primary. Creams and browns always feature heavily in his palette when it comes to clothing.
As stated earlier, personal hygiene is of the utmost importance to the Virgo man. So, rather than exotic perfumes, he responds to subtle, fresh scents that imply cleanliness.
Gifts for the Virgo Man
Generally, cultured, the Virgo man will appreciate the gift of a book. They are not given to financial extravagance, so they will appreciate the monetary restraint of this relatively inexpensive gift. When selecting a book, avoid anything trashy; much better to opt for something that demonstrates good taste, such as a book of poetry or something literary or educational.
Grooming products are always appreciated. The Virgo man sees nothing effeminate in bath salts or a natural sea sponge!
Sex and the Virgo Man
There is a misconception about the Virgo sign as a whole with regards to sex. Virgos are not naturally chaste and they don’t find sex distasteful. However, they do find it easier than any other sign of the zodiac to abstain, so you’re unlikely to come across a Virgo man who desperately craves sex.
For the Virgo man, sex is a healthy and natural thing, but it isn’t something to be indulged in for its own sake. Hence, a one-night-stand is unlikely to sit well with the Virgo man. He will want to get to know a potential partner first, to feel comfortable and confident with them.
Virgo men tend to make love delicately and with elegance, viewing it almost as an art form or even a skill which can be perfected. Unlike the Leo man, for example, it’s obvious that he isn’t a pouncer by nature. He likes to take his time and prepare.
Keeping Your Virgo Man
The Virgo man isn’t difficult to keep hold of. Just so long as you’re kind and decent, to him and, more importantly, to others, the Virgo man will love you.
He likes his private life to be kept private and views any breech of confidence as a terribly betrayal.
He will also find it difficult to live happily with anyone who is slovenly or chaotic. Even people who don’t put the CDs back in their cases will drive him insane!
What are You Letting Yourself in For?
Okay, I’ve probably given you the impression that the Virgo man is some kind of obsessive compulsive and… well, this isn’t too far away from the truth. He likes everything to be just so and views cleanliness as not only next to but above and beyond godliness!
This obsessive temperament can manifest as nervous, twitchy or even neurotic behavior and even hypochondria.
You may find the Virgo Man more difficult if you’re a…
…Sagittarius, Pisces or Gemini, and particularly challenging, if you’re a Aquarius or Aries. But don’t worry: true love conquers all!
The Big Do:
A little kindness will go a long way.
The Big Don’t:
Avoid cruelty of any sort (even the odd little biting remark, no matter how ironically intentioned).