Why Set Your Heart on an Aries Man?
The Aries man is driven and determined and will tend to succeed in life. Plus, he’s a traditional romantic at heart and, as such, he’ll be perfectly happy to do all the chasing! You just need to let him know you want to be chased.
Winning an Aries Man.
The fact that one of the most famous of Aries men was “the world’s greatest lover” Casanova will, depending on your own personality, either set your heart racing or fill you with a sense of impending doom. But, don’t worry, Casanova represents an extreme example of the Aries man and his ‘love of the chase’. More of this, later. At work, the Aries man is likely to be in a position of some authority. If not, he will be working all out to get there. The Aries man enjoys hard work, and you will often find him working late – a great opportunity to catch him alone. He is driven and, generally, successful. He also likes driven and successful partners… just so long as they aren’t quite as successful as him.
So, if you are more successful, it would be wise not to broadcast the fact too loudly. If the subject of your superior position or greater professional achievements does come up, try to be as modest and self-effacing as possible. The Aries man can be combative and he enjoys the prospect of a little mental and psychological sparring, so don’t be afraid to offer a contrary opinion and engage in a bit of a debate with him. He likes a challenge, so try to hold your own against him. However, the Aries man also likes to win, so there may be a point where you’ll have to swallow your pride and give him his victory or, at the very least, “agree to disagree” and concede that he has “made some interesting and valid points”. But don’t make this peace offering too soon: give the Aries man a run for his money. Be careful, however, not to personally criticise the Aries man or his ideas, as he responds quite badly to criticism. The Aries man likes to encourage and motivate others. If you ask him how to perform a particular task or how you might improve your own performance with regard to some work-related activity, he will be more than happy to guide and advise. In fact, he’ll almost see this as a gift from you to him. As you’ve no doubt guessed from all of the above, the Aries man is literally brimming with energy. If you’ve set your sites on him, be prepared to make the effort to keep up. The Aries man generally dislikes slovenly people but, yet again, he isn’t best pleased when usurped by someone with greater levels of energy and enthusiasm. If you’re extremely energetic yourself, this is good thing; if you’re liable to leave the Aries man spinning in your slipstream, it’s probably a good idea to have a couple of cups of chamomile tea before engaging with him.
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The Aries man likes to see himself as a knight in shining armor. He is attracted to vulnerability and loves nothing more than coming to the rescue. This creates something of a dilemma: on the one hand, you’ll need to be pretty tough to put up with the Aries man’s antagonistic behavior and energetic nature but you’ll also want to display your more vulnerable qualities. Difficult, but far from impossible: you’ll just need to play at being a little helpless every now and then. This chivalrous quality comes very much to the fore during the earliest stages of a relationship: the Aries man likes to do all the chasing, to be the ‘woo-er’ rather than the ‘woo-ee’. Consequently, it doesn’t do to be too aggressive in your pursuit of the Aries man; better to drop hints and suggestions, to make yourself available to be asked out by him, rather than asking him out yourself. The Aries man responds well to subtlety and mystery, and enjoys a traditional, romantic courtship.
The Ideal Date for the Aries Man
The Aries man likes his food, so a meal is always a good idea. Generally, the Aries man likes his food very traditional or very adventurous, but never bland. There has always been a certain amount of debate over whether or not the Aries man is a great lover of spicy food; it could go either way, but he will generally love it or hate it. The only downside to a restaurant date is that the Aries man is apt to concentrate more on his food than on you! Alternatively, a high energy date always goes down well: something sporty or exciting. The Aries man tends to be impulsive, so he’s likely to respond well to a spontaneously-suggested and novel activity, so make a note of anything he’s never done before.
What to Wear for the Aries Man
Something feminine, something pretty, not something sexually aggressive. The Aries man likes red, but use it sparingly and subtly. If you dress like the modern version of a damsel in distress, you can’t go far wrong.
Gifts for the Aries Man
With the Aries man, it’s not so much the gift as the wrapping and presentation. He also likes to know you’ve been paying attention, so you’ll definitely score points if you buy him something that he may have mentioned in passing. For example, if he happens to mention he admires Muhammad Ali and a couple of weeks later a beautifully wrapped present turns out to be a collector’s edition of Norman Mailer’s The Fight… well done, you. Unique and personalized gifts are always welcomed by the Aries man.
Sex and the Aries Man
The Aries man likes to feel like he’s in charge, but at the same time doesn’t respond well to a completely submissive partner. With a combination of raw, energetic sensuality and a suggestion of semi-virginal uncertainty, you’ll be able to lead the Aries man by the nose. Well, maybe not the ‘nose’ exactly! But if you really want to learn exactly what the Aries man is like when it comes to sex, click here.
Keeping Your Aries Man
As promised, back to Casanova. The Aries man loves the thrill of the chase, the exhilaration of pursuit. This is great in the early stages of a relationship, but can lead to problems once a relationship has settled down and entered the ‘comfortable’ stage. To keep your Aries man, you’ll need to have a little something held in reserve, to retain a touch of mystery. He doesn’t need to know every detail of your life to date right away. Surprise him, do something unexpected. Make him think there’s still a touch more ‘conquering’ to do. All that being said, when in love, the Aries man is fiercely loyal. The Aries man holds the principles of truth and honesty in very high regard, so it pays to be truthful at all times… or, at the very least, not to get caught! It goes without saying that a varied and exciting sex life is a must.
What are You Letting Yourself in For?
Okay, now for the bad stuff. The Aries man can be brash, possessive, jealous, inattentive and selfish. He also likes to put his partner on a pedestal and idolise them, which can make your role in the relationship a somewhat arduous one.
You may find the Aries Man more difficult if you’re a
Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio or Capricorn, and particularly challenging, if you’re a Virgo or Pisces. But don’t worry: true love conquers all! According to most astrological compatibility analysis, the following is true of the Aries man: Aries man, Aries Woman: could go either way. Aries man, Taurus Woman: difficult. Aries man, Gemini Woman: relatively straight forward. Aries man, Cancer Woman: difficult. Aries man, Leo Woman: a breeze! Aries man, Virgo Woman: particularly challenging. Aries man, Libra Woman: could go either way. Aries man, Scorpio Woman: difficult. Aries man, Sagittarius Woman: relatively straight forward. Aries man, Capricorn Woman: difficult. Aries man, Aquarius Woman: relatively straight formward. Aries man, Pisces Woman: particularly challenging.
The Big Do:
Demonstrate determination in everything you do, pursuing success with ambition and zeal.
The Big Don’t:
If you’re more successful than he is, try to play it down a little.